Lebowitz and Ms. Ephron to try out my theories. Ephron did not disagree. She did, however, in what I thought was a slightly feline way, accuse me of plagiarizing a rant by Jerry Lewis that said much the same thing. There are more terrible female comedians than there are terrible male comedians, but there are some impressive ladies out there.
Most of them, though, when you come to review the situation, are hefty or dykey or Jewish, or some combo of the three. And the Sapphic faction may have its own reasons for wanting what I want—the sweet surrender of female laughter.
While Jewish humor, boiling as it is with angst and self-deprecation, is almost masculine by definition. Probe a little deeper, though, and you will see what Nietzsche meant when he described a witticism as an epitaph on the death of a feeling. Humor is part of the armor-plate with which to resist what is already farcical enough. Perhaps not by coincidence, battered as they are by motherfucking nature, men tend to refer to life itself as a bitch.
Whereas women, bless their tender hearts, would prefer that life be fair, and even sweet, rather than the sordid mess it actually is. Jokes about calamitous visits to the doctor or the shrink or the bathroom, or the venting of sexual frustration on furry domestic animals, are a male province. I thought as much. Precisely because humor is a sign of intelligence and many women believe, or were taught by their mothers, that they become threatening to men if they appear too bright , it could be that in some way men do not want women to be funny.
They want them as an audience, not as rivals. And there is a huge, brimming reservoir of male unease, which it would be too easy for women to exploit. Men have prostate glands, hysterically enough, and these have a tendency to give out, along with their hearts and, it has to be said, their dicks. This is funny only in male company.
For some reason, women do not find their own physical decay and absurdity to be so riotously amusing, which is why we admire Lucille Ball and Helen Fielding, who do see the funny side of it. But this is so rare as to be like Dr.
Filth, and plenty of it. Filth in lavish, heaping quantities. So is their relish for gags about premature ejaculation. For women, reproduction is, if not the only thing, certainly the main thing.
The MOST bizarre reason why my mother-in-law broke our marriage! My time with Hassan, Husain and Akkineni. Is the power of money greater than human emotions?
Golu Sundal Vs. Halloween Chocolates. A marriage of faiths. Count: We have sent you a verification email. To verify, just follow the link in the message. Nupur Amarnath. Created: Jul 16, , IST. Quips, wit, sarcasm, jokes were my break-the-ice MO. Come to think of it, my dating book was as empty as our collective wallets after the DeMo drive and the wait for the follow-up call was just as long as the lines.
This reflected in the relationship realm. But millennials are changing the rules. Comments 0. Be the first one to comment. Read All Comments Post a Comment. Not everyone endorses evolutionary psychology, but those who do would say that women tend to be more selective in choosing their mates than men are because historically, motherhood has been a life-threatening, all-consuming endeavor.
If a cavewoman picked the wrong caveman, she might risk a grueling childbirth only to end up raising an illness-addled child without the help of a skillful mate. Thus, choosiness becomes paramount. It behooves women to find a partner who will bestow sufficient time, resources, and good genes on their children—in other words, a smart man.
Funny people are more likely to be smart. In one of the many New Yorker studies, the students who scored higher on intelligence tests also generated the funniest captions. On average, women tend to use their laughter to lure in potential mates, while men use their jokes to attract as many women as they can.
For decades, this response stumped psychologists. Women want men who will tell jokes; men want women who will laugh at theirs. In , psychologists Eric Bressler and Sigal Balshine showed college students images of two equally attractive members of the opposite sex. Underneath each photo, they pasted either funny or not-funny statements supposedly authored by the person. Female participants said they wanted the funny man, rather than the unfunny one, as a boyfriend, even when they thought the funnier man was less trustworthy.
In study later that year, Bressler and Balshine again found that, when considering imaginary interactions with people of the opposite sex, women said they wanted men who could make them laugh. Men said it was much more important that a woman enjoy his jokes.
Older studies of personal ads in magazines and newspapers found that women were far more likely than men to mention seeking someone funny.
Later, when researchers looked at profiles on a Canadian dating website, they found men were more likely to tout how funny they were, while women were likelier to say they wanted a funny man. Men ranked it third. If men try harder to be funny, women do their best to show their appreciation, laughing more enthusiastically and frequently in male company.
One study found that when men and women are talking, the amount that the woman, but not the man, laughs can predict whether the pair wants to date each other. My issue with him was that he took me out for dinner at a fancy place and only ordered chocolate milk. Lucy Porter, of BBC1's The Stand Up Show and Five's The Comedy Store, said that the people who did chat her up probably did so because "they think that if you are outrageous on stage, then you are going to be really dirty in bed.
Most female comics admit that their wit is far less potent than that of males when it comes to seduction. Oriane Messina, of Radio 4's Bearded Ladies, said: "I can't say I've laughed a man into bed, whereas I know plenty of men who have laughed a woman into bed. I temper my humour for certain situations, which might include when I meet a man I find attractive.
I think some men find funny women intimidating. If they are going to be put off, then they are not for me. Catherine Tate made her name as a stand-up comic. They think that because you're being funny you are entering their domain. Men like this see women doing comedy as operating outside the bounds of what they should be doing.
They are the kind of man who assumes that a woman who cracks a joke must be a lesbian. But certain people are like that. Some backward types are threatened by funny women.
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